mandy
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Post by mandy on Mar 26, 2024 20:49:02 GMT -5
I think one of the reasons my mom has the mental health problems she has is because her first baby died from a heart condition. I know her and my dad have argued about it because he says she wallows instead of appreciating what she's got. I guess that's probably not fair of my dad to say to her but the truth is I sometimes feel jealous of my dead sister. I'm never going to be as important to my mom as she is. It's totally ok to feel that way sometimes, Mandy. I can imagine that the fact that your mom seems so preoccupied by your sister's death can make you feel like you don't matter as much. Have you ever tried talking to your mom about this? We don't talk about her.
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Addy
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Post by Addy on Mar 26, 2024 21:55:30 GMT -5
We live so we grieve.
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Cathy
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Post by Cathy on Mar 27, 2024 12:52:46 GMT -5
The weird thing about when my mom died and I came here is I was thinking like she was going to come back. I knew in my head that she wasn't going to cause I was not even in my home no more but I still was looking for her. I don't know and maybe my grieving is not enough you know. I don't like to think of my mom as being dead and I don't want to be sad neither. I want to remember my moms laugh is all. I don't know. Something me and my doctor talked about before is how everything becomes before and after and so it is like being divided into 2 different people. I know a lot of the anxiety I got is from my first mom dying and me being afraid that my now mom or my dad will die to. I know we will all die some day but it worries me sometimes that when I go to sleep that they won't be there when I wake up again. I don't know. Crazy stuff. My grandma did lose 2 and her first one was her little boy who drowned. That was before I was even born. Nothing weird about any of that peanut.
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Cathy
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Post by Cathy on Mar 27, 2024 12:54:29 GMT -5
It's totally ok to feel that way sometimes, Mandy. I can imagine that the fact that your mom seems so preoccupied by your sister's death can make you feel like you don't matter as much. Have you ever tried talking to your mom about this? We don't talk about her. It sounds like your mom hasn't processed her grief. Mandy her feelings are about her pain and not you. Don't take it personally.
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