Libby
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Post by Libby on Dec 29, 2022 23:06:32 GMT -5
What to do about the children is going to be the biggest issue but if the non-believer will support them learning what the believer believes, I don't think it's a deal breaker. What about the believer supporting them learning what the non-believer believes? Fair is fair, after all. Who gets to decide what is taught to the children, or should the children be allowed to decide for themselves? If you're Catholic like I am and wish to be married in the church, you will have to agree to raise your children Catholic. |
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Post by Vince on Dec 29, 2022 23:46:21 GMT -5
Like I said, that's something the couple would have to work out before hand. It smacks a little bit of Christian privilege to say the Christian parent's perogative to raise their children in the faith outweighs the perogative of the non-believer.
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Post by Kim on Dec 30, 2022 10:03:08 GMT -5
If you're a devout Catholic, there's nothing really to work out. You either raise your children Catholic or you don't get married in the church. If you don't get married in the church, then by church laws you aren't married in the eyes of God so you're fornicating even if your marriage is legally valid. The Catholic marrying the non-Catholic is expected to sign an agreement which states:
(1) “I reaffirm my faith in Jesus Christ and intend to continue living that faith in the Catholic Church.”
(2) “I promise to do all in my power to share my faith with our children by having them baptized and raised as Catholics”
Christian privilege? Perhaps. But a person isn't forced to remain in the church. There are plenty of other church choices out there if you aren't happy with the teachings of the Catholic church.. People are there because they believe and choose to be Catholic so they agree to the rules, tenets of the faith. If that church fails to meet your needs, then it's on you to find one that does or go churchless.
I don't think I would call this Christian privilege simply because it's open to anyone who wishes to worship in the same way. I was raised Catholic but am no longer a practicing Catholic because my marriage to Rob excluded me from the sacraments. I disagreed and still do disagree with those teachings so I left. I don't harbor resentment simply because I understand and accept that a church has the right to make its own rules and as long as it's not exclusionary based on anything other than not having the desire to worship the Catholic way, I don't see that as privilege.
There are many Christian churches that don't have the same expectations as the Catholic church so it isn't really Christian privilege.
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Post by charity on Dec 30, 2022 22:24:32 GMT -5
Seems like something they would need to work out before having kids, especially if the non-believer was hostile toward religion. |
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