Boy or girl

[Tatiana]

Molding a wife and mother?  There is something not normal about that bloke.  My mum doesn't sew and we live. 

[Addy]

Apr 19, 2021 22:37:57 GMT -5 scarlette said:

Apr 19, 2021 11:24:01 GMT -5 Addy said:

"The mother should always keep in mind that she is molding a future wife and mother.  Challenge them with sewing, cooking, cleaning. learning about everything.  Let them get their hands in the dough (unless the child training teacher is coming for dinner).  From the time they are big enough to tell a tale, they should be talking about what 'Mama and I did today'".
That is raising a girl in the world of Michael and Debi Pearl.  
Hey Scarlette and Rosie here's one for your dad:
"Gender role distinction is demeaned in modern education.  Don't let a coven of Sodomites and socialists, hiding behind the badge of professional psychologists, reprogram your natural feelings on male and female distinctiveness."

Are you still reading that book?  I could recommend a good book if you'd like....it won't be about beating kids or child development....just a good read.
Sodomites and socialists?  That jackass justifies his abuse of children by calling it Biblical discipline.  How the heck many children did Jesus beat?  I would bet he's a sexual deviant who can't come to terms with his own deviance so  he has to find a way to hide it.  Idiot has a spanking fetish and is a pedophile.

Bathroom reading, that's all.  

[charity]

What is so bad about learning how to be a mother and a wife?  That doesn't mean you can't have a career but even career women need to have a home to go to when they're done working.

[Addy]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a wife and mother but it's his attitude that the only one who should be doing the cooking and the cleaning and child raising is the woman, no matter what else she may be doing.  A woman is more than the stereotype he is encouraging.  If you WANT to be a wife and mother who does all the cooking and cleaning and diaper changing then fine but if you want to be a nurse or an astronaut or physicist as well then that should be supported.

[scarlette]

WHAT IS SO BAD ABOUT IT?   
Charity, Charity, Charity......you are so much more than a vagina.

[Tatiana]

[charity]

I know that but my body is built differently than a man's body.  I have a place for a baby to grow inside of me.  That is something a man can't do.  A man can't be a mother.  I don't see the issue in training us to be wives and mothers.

[quinn]

Men and women have different bodies but that doesn't mean they aren't equally capable of having the career of their dreams.  It's about confining each gender within predetermined boundaries that aren't relevant.

[scarlette]

[Kim]

Apr 21, 2021 18:13:59 GMT -5 charity said:

I know that but my body is built differently than a man's body.  I have a place for a baby to grow inside of me.  That is something a man can't do.  A man can't be a mother.  I don't see the issue in training us to be wives and mothers.

Charity, every family does things differently.  When you get older and start your own family you will accept some of the things your parents taught you and you will reject some things as well.  Why is this?  It's not simply because you have your own ideas and morality but it's also because you'll change to meet the needs of a different world from the one you grew up in.
My grandmother never had to work.  My grandfather never went to college and he worked in a shoe factory but his wage was enough to support himself and a family.  My grandparents owned their own home and raised a large family, on one income.  It's nearly impossible to do that today.  Look at your own parents, they both work.
Both my parents had to work.  One income would have meant living in poverty or not having half of the kids they had.
My husband and I both work because we don't want our girls to leave college in so much debt that there's little hope they will ever live debt free. 

You can bet when I'm busy doing report cards or grading papers my husband is in the kitchen fixing dinner.  Being born without a womb doesn't mean a man can't do as good of a job with the house and kids as a woman can.

This Michael Pearl is promoting roles that no longer exist for most families in this country.  Mom can't be the only homemaker when she also has to work to bring in money to pay the bills.  Just as mom helps pay the bills, dad needs to help on the homefront..

Add his dysfunctional attitude to his insistence that children be trained like you train a dog or a mule and he's one person who is best seen but never heard.

[Tatiana]

My dad makes the best yassa.  His jollof rice is great too.  He cooks and he does help with doing the housework.  I don't know why people want to pretend men can't cook and clean.  It's rubbish.

[Addy]

I had no idea what those things are.  The chicken yassa looks like it would be okay but the fish one doesn't look like something I'd want to eat.  I wouldn't want a three bite rule for that one. 
I really want to try the rice.  That looks yummy.

[Rosie]

My dad makes banging hot wings but mostly my mom does cook better then him.  He is good at making a mess of the kitchen.